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Thursday, July 17, 2025

We Will Burn

Post 26 – “We Will Burn” – The Lethality Indicators

There are things Jeff said that still ring in my bones. Not because they were loud, but because they were final. Words like:

  • “We will burn.”
  • “It will end one of two ways.”
  • “I ain’t going back to jail.”

He didn’t say them in arguments. He said them in stillness. With a deadpan tone. Like statements, not threats. Like he was narrating a movie he’d already seen the ending to.

That’s what made them dangerous.


Death by Implication – The Words Behind the Silence

“We will burn” wasn’t just metaphor. It was code for mutual destruction. “It will end one of two ways” wasn’t open-ended—it was a binary mindset: death or jail. And “I ain’t going back to jail” wasn’t about fear—it was about justification for avoiding accountability at any cost.

These are lethality indicators—phrases used by abusers when they sense control slipping. And I remember them clearly because I now understand their meaning:

If he couldn’t control the outcome, he would destroy it.


Tactics Breakdown – Lethality & Final-Stage Language

  • Mutual Destruction Threat: “We will burn” suggests shared obliteration, often used to maintain fear or reclaim dominance
  • Binary Endgame Thinking: “It will end one of two ways” reflects fatalistic reasoning—either violence or escape through force
  • Accountability Aversion: “I ain’t going back to jail” reveals an offender’s refusal to face consequences, increasing danger to others
  • Calm Tone as Weapon: Delivered without rage, these statements bypass defense mechanisms and create psychological paralysis

Why These Statements Matter in Court

In domestic violence cases, statements like these are often dismissed unless documented. But make no mistake—these are risk factor red flags. Courts are beginning to recognize them for what they are: indications of escalating danger.

They are not outbursts. They are premeditated scripts.


You are not paranoid for remembering what he said.
You are perceptive for recognizing what it meant.


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