Post 31 – Family Triangulation & Emotional Exile
There were entire conversations about me that I was never invited to join.
After every argument, Jeff would leave—not to cool down, not to take accountability—but to go to his mother’s or sisters’ houses. I wouldn’t hear from him for hours, sometimes a full day. Then I’d find out from his family what he was thinking or feeling. Because they knew. I didn’t.
He painted the picture, and they judged me based on it. No one ever asked me for context. No one ever wondered if there was another side. And slowly, my voice disappeared. I wasn’t just being isolated physically—I was being erased emotionally.
The Damage Done in Absent Rooms
When a partner runs to outsiders after conflict instead of communicating with you, that’s not support—it’s triangulation.
It’s manipulation by proxy.
Jeff didn’t just use his family to vent. He used them to rewrite the narrative, rally allies, and return with more power. Meanwhile, I was left confused, unsupported, and completely alone inside the relationship.
Tactics Breakdown – Triangulation & Isolation
- Emotional Outsourcing: Shared private relationship details with family while excluding partner
- Triangulation: Positioned himself as victim to gain sympathy and control narrative
- Character Assassination: Allowed family to form opinions about partner without context or consent
- Isolation:
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